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January 21, 2008
The Haiti Duffle Bag
Filed under: Life's Journey
While in Haiti last week I kept a "duffle bag" of thoughts and circled one key statement that summarized or stuck out most each day. The following are highlights from those thoughts. I am still sorting through the culture shock of being back and what life means moving forward. I have been on many missions trips and it seems like the older you get the wiser you get toward wanting to help and being able to help. The struggle continues.
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They give us their best
This was obvious from the moment we arrived. They prepared the best food for us, even though the average Haitian eats three meals per week, and usually no more than one meal per day. They wore the best clothes they had, which were usually better than anything I brought to wear. The house they provided for us to stay in was the nicest place in town. The sad thing about them giving us their best is that I'm afraid I didn't give them mine.
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They appear to be carefree and happy
They drop everything to walk and talk with you. It was like we had an entourage everywhere we went. I realize a lot of this is because we were the only white people in town, but their carefree and happy posture was their way of loving, laughing and learning.
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They love to laugh
In spite of their obvious setbacks and suffering, they love to laugh. Really laugh. Gut-busting laughs. Laughs that make you laugh at their laughing. It was easy to joke around and smile together, even though we spoke different languages.
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They cling to people and possibilities
Every time we walked in public dozens of people would grab your hand and hold on to it for as long as you would let them. This hand-holding was a mixture of affection and petition. They wanted friendship and they wanted help. It was during these moments of walking together you would hear requests for candy or food, or perhaps just a silent walk together sensing humanity's link.
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They have lives that are powerful stories
You couldn't go a day without hearing a powerful life story from somebody. From miraculous physical healings to abandoned orphans who are now orphanage directors, there were so many people with amazing stories of redemption.
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They use happiness to masquerade their hopelessness
In the midst of their laughs and smiles, you get a keen sense that their external happiness is a actually a real cry from their deep-rooted hopelessness. I don't think they are intentionally being fake or phony, but it's as if they know all too well that their circumstances are dim but their lives are bright.
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They share what little they have with their family
When they get money or food, it doesn't just go to the person who got it, it goes to the family and friends of that person too. This means when a meal is cooked, it is usually shared by more than just the family in the home, it could be shared with extended relatives or nearby homes as well.
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They need leadership development
I am very concerned for the existing leaders that are in Haiti, particularly the ones who lead the schools, orphanages, medical clinics and churches. Their influence is huge and the people depend on them greatly. I fear that these leaders may lack leadership in their own life and if unchecked, they could easily fall prey to the pitfalls that any leader can face (greed, power, misallocation of resources, etc.).
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I'm proud and provoked (inside) by what you and the other Abares did. Your video, photos and words have not left my life without impact. Thank you.
Posted by: cynthia duncan at January 25, 2008 5:03 PM
you are very encouraging in what you do!! this caught my eye because my parents just left to minister in haiti for 6 months! I have been their multiple times, and think it is an amazing place!! thanks for all you do for the kingdom!
Posted by: brenden at February 4, 2008 12:52 PM